Why? Why me? Why now? So helpless that I can’t even rant on my Facebook or voice my feeling. I have already give in a lot and I also trying to make everyone happy. Still, it has to be me ! I am facing some problems here and this helper is not helping anything much yet put me in a difficult position.
Barely 4 months with us. She asked me if she can go out and meet her cousin in city hall. It was her cousin’s idea. Doesn’t she know she has signed on the agreement that she is paid more as she agreed no off day ? Now, she is asking if she can have one adhoc day off???!!!!!??? I hate it, hate it so much as I know I have to tolerate her and close both eyes as she will show me her long face like as if I owe her a life; on the other hand, it isn’t easy for me to reject because the meet up is very important to her and I am a “bad employer” in many eyes. This is the thing I can’t share on my FB as there are simply too many fake “American” who love to talk about freedom. Ya, like as if I am the one who took them out of their village and locked them at my house to work like a slave.
Even I myself started working as a junior had probation period in ward. This girl is requesting something she is not “entitled to”.
At first we thought of letting her meet up with her cousin, knowing her character of being timid and kiasi, she will not make it to city hall from our place if she were to travel alone. Ben even wanted to offer to give her a lift to the exact location, let her have 2 hours of meet up and then we bring her back. During that period, we can go shopping somewhere nearby. Guess what, her cousin already asking for our address and helper told me her cousin will come to my place to bring her out, next month on the 18th. I changed my mind for not telling her our decision but still, we let them meet, not in city hall but at our place, that’s if she die die want to meet up with her cousin. Seriously, like what my friends said, don’t know how many cousins and aunties are coming out next time. I really hope I’ve make myself very clear on this.
At the same time, I took this chance to tell her again that I do not approve on mobile phone. The agent didn’t tell me in advance and I was only informed on the day we picked her from agency. We gave in and let her keep her phone and I top up her cards upon request, of course she has to pay me back the money as she can spend up to 50 plus for a month or 2.
I know not everyone agree with me, I have my own reasons. Why I do not like my helper to own a mobile phone ?
– hygiene, talking while cooking, saliva flying all over, forget to turn off the gas stove
– safety, talking while ironing, forgot to switch off the power
– affect her emotion, suddenly moody because so and so passed away or upset friends got day off. After I told her she can only meet her cousin at our place, she cried ! I should tell her off, let you meet is the max I can do, what are you still crying?
– sloppy work, anyhow finish the chores before the phone rings
– more friends & relatives, busy talking all the time, wear headphone while doing housework, some helpers happily yakking on the phone and leave children unattended
– financial burden, more money to pay bill or top up the cards, may lead to stealing
– accident !? Lately, more and more cases of fatal RTA especially for kids who were crossing the road with helpers, I hope these maid were not on the phone.
Not once but twice I caught her keeping her phone in the pocket during the day time. Our agreements :
– no phone calls during working hours, she can talk after 9pm. That’s her resting time too.
– can keep phone with her all time during weekends.
See, give in to let her have phone, but don’t want to follow rules. Give chance after the incidents, she asked to go out, not once but twice.
Foreign domestic worker aka maid, got “super many patterns”.