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女人这一生

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女人什么时候才能享受生活?特别是有家庭的女人,似乎生活的重心只是围着老公孩子锅台转,像个永不停歇、不知疲倦的陀螺,没有停下来的一刻,也就没有所谓的享受。等到孩子大了,又组了新的家庭,有了孙子,做了奶奶的女人此刻又开始了新一轮的劳碌操持,继续为后代鞠躬尽瘁,死而后已。可怜的女人一生都是为了家或者为了别人而活着,从不为自己,不知在归去的那一刻心里是否会有白活了一场的感叹!

女人这一生,为子女,为老人,为家庭,为事业,劳碌奔波,累垮了自己的身体,衰老了自己的容颜。可是她们仍然继续忙碌着……
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Saw this post by a friend of mine. I really think some women are born to be supermoms and superwives. I am trying to one too when I was told to stay at home to look after Asher, I know my roles, my duties and my responsibilities, I have to make sure
– the house maid is not creating havoc
– my mother is okay
– everyone has balance diet
– the children is well fed and happy
– the house is clean and tidy

Look very simple, right? I almost give up months ago when things didn’t go that well. I know I need to make sure my own life is “balance” as well. My very supportive hubby spent on things I want, like massages, hair spa, manicure packages and occasionally, some big price items. Some people may think that I am very spend drift but I am not, what’s wrong with a housewife to have beautiful nails? What’s wrong with a housewife to look good, dress prettily? For me, I want to feel good, look good. With good mood, I don’t pull long face, I greet my tired husband with my big smile in the evening instead of grumbling and complaining. No doubt, I am lucky to have a very understanding husband who appreciates the wife, knows how to and when to make the wife smiles.

Well, I truly believe all women especially moms deserve good rest, good time for themselves. Find time to pamper ourselves so that we rant less? I don’t want to be a old nagging woman complaining life, husband and every single thing, I definitely won’t want the same thought as the one who wrote the statement (of course I agreed most women slog for family) because, happiness is when you are with the one you love, living your life the way you want to, cherish everything and everyone and being appreciated. I certainly won’t want to lie in my peace box and know hack about “life”.

Don’t nag and whine. If you have to, try this – “breath in and out and text your hubby – I miss you.” If negatives posts keep popping up on my Facebook, I’ll have to hide “you” from timeline. 🙂

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7 thoughts on “女人这一生

  1. I don’t know what your friend posted but I’m guessing it’s not very positive..?

    My husband always says, “When mummy is happy, everyone is happy.” Got to give him credit for his ‘wisdom’. heehe

    I agree that balance is important. And I’ve discovered a long time ago that mummy cannot do it all. I don’t have a maid, never had 1, so I look forward to the time when my mom or mother-in-law says they want to have the kids for a sleepover.. It’s win-win-win. Kids happy, grandparents happy, mummy lagi happy. When the cats are away, the mouse comes out to play! 😀

    I don’t need a special treat/gift all the time to keep me happy. I relish even the simplest pleasure of being able to read a good novel/eat my meals/window shop in peace and quiet. Very, very difficult to do with 2 kids in the house who are interacting/playing/squabbling non-stop.

    Think it’s important to take care of ourselves too for our sanity, yah?

    Oh, but I do welcome the big, longgg holidays.. away from home and CHORES. Well-earned, I say 😉

  2. It’s not something bad, more like a life of a woman, a mother, a daughter. Busy with everyone in her whole life and neglected herself. It’s quite true for most women especially our mothers’ era. Everything they do, they do for us and everyone except themselves.

    I am glad at least now our husbands are more thoughtful and our lives are not as hard as theirs so we are given a lot of things (definitely more than our mothers)

    Holidays ! Don’t know why, I now takut long holidays, anything more than 2 weeks I will reject the idea. But I suka massages and spa holidays 😀

  3. hmm.. ya that bit abt self-sacrificing women/mothers of yester-years is pretty accurate. I only have to think of my own mother to know this.

    We’re blessed, and I never forget that for a minute. Things in this world have no permanence, yes? Anything can change in the future. So I better be glad and thankful.

    Takut holidays? Why? I’d do anything to get away from doing laundry/cooking/cleaning for an extended period of time. The longer the better. LOL. It’s when I have to hear abt the bills that I get scared. :S Hahaa!

    oh, btw Di, do u think u cld help me change the link to my blog. I don’t use famela.me anymore. It’s just famelasworld.wordpress.com now. Thanks! 🙂

  4. Can of course! I hardly check my blog roll links, use bookmark instead.

    You’re right, we don’t know about future, If can, I would like to save more for rainy days. Going holiday for too long make me worry about the bill, the “unhealthy” food we eat and the money we spend can feed some poor people for weeks, not that we don’t deserve a holiday, a 2 weeks is enough. (That was why we did not go holiday in dec, hub wanted a 3 wk in Japan/melb but I refused to plan and book any tickets)

  5. Eeks, that spending money bit is soo true. I do worry about it. But.. i love our holidays too much!

  6. i feel you… and can’t agree more. there is nothing wrong if we want to pamper ourselves a little especially after all a hard day at work – work = office, work = home

    home makers have the toughest job. every one thinks they have it easy – but seriously, i think they should try it out themselves first before commenting. actually, i think my job allows me to be a home maker (during the hols) and then when i “have enough” !!! it is time to go back to work (sch reopens) and the cycle starts again. haha

  7. Oh yes, I love your holidays too !

    Nat, if there’s a chance, I believe you will want to stay at home too.

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